From Director Stephen Cone, who also directed award-winning films THE WISE KIDS and HENRY GAMBLE’S BIRTHDAY PARTY.

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After landing in LA, Lucy began performing live with a full band and caught the attention of major press like the LA Times. Lead by Lucy’s welcoming stage presence and unmistakable attire (the band wears colorful bowties and decorates the stage), their live shows have gained attention for their interactive audience participation and focus on community activism.

They’ve hosted fundraising concerts for LA’s LGBT Center (the “Love is Gay” event) and shocked their crowd at Lucy’s Locks of Love benefit when Lucy cut 15-inches of her hair off on stage to be donated to the cause.

Outside of their own community based shows, the band has also performed at LA Fashion Week, The Rose Bowl, CMJ Music Marathon, Echo Park Rising, KCRW’s Chinatown Summer Nights, Jam in the Van, BalconyTV, and also performed for the Mayor of LA.

The Huffington Post called their 2017 single Honey, Put Your Weapons Down the “perfect indie pop anthem” and their last release Rebel Babe took listeners by surprise with it’s booming chorus and liberating message.

Lucy has shared the stage with everyone from electronic artist Moby, folk sirens Joseph, to emo rockers Bayside. She is endorsed by Kala Brand Ukuleles and stays close to her fans by by live-streaming every weekend on the band’s facebook page.

While their new single “Got That Thing” gains traction playing on a national Dove Commercial, the band is embarking on their first European & UK tour.

Lucy on “Got That Thing” video:
“I wanted to make a video that was fun and add a little humor to the idea of online dating, too. It takes a lot of courage and self-confidence to put yourself out there. Sometimes you make a new friend, sometimes it’s love, sometimes it’s just an insanely awkward moment in time and you never see them again. In the end, it’s all about getting to know yourself better because you learn what you like and don’t like.

We also invited some of our favorite local LA artists/bands to be in the video including members of Transviolet, WASI, Polartropica, Slugs and Mz. 007.”

TOUR
Sept 17 Living Room Concert, Hamburg
Sept 21 Madame Claude’s, Berlin, Germany
Sept 22 Mokkum Sessions, Amsterdam, Netherlands
Sept 27 Bi Pride, London, UK
Sept 30 Jacaranda Showcase, Liverpool, UK
Oct 1 TBA Dublin, Ireland

SOCIAL MEDIA
Twitter
Facebook
Instagram
YouTube

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Illustration by Lee Ely

Hello there Femme!

Before tonight I had never heard of lesbian.com but I stumbled upon it after a night out with my girls and I saw your advice column. I really like how honest you are with your readers and I decided after reading like three posts to submit a question.

First of all, I have always identified as heterosexual. I’ve made out with a couple ladies in my teens but never been intimate with another woman. I find women attractive but I never really considered myself a bisexual or lesbian until recently.

I’m at a point now where I feel as though I am bisexual because I seek out lesbian pornography and I am extremely curious about relations with women. Not only that, there was a really hot girl working one of the concession stands tonight at the fair who told me I was “so cute.” I just melted under pressure and said thanks, tipped her and left. I thought about her the rest of the night. I’m comfortable enough to own my sexuality within myself but, I’ve been dating this guy for close to two years and that sort of complicates things.

A part of me thinks I need to tell him because I know that not everyone feels comfortable with dating a bisexual. At the same time, I’m not sure how he’ll react once he finds out and if our relationship will be secure.

I just want to know if it’s the right thing to go ahead and tell him or just keep it to myself.

-To Share or not to Share

Dear Share,

Congratulations on finding yourself! I’m really excited for you to begin this journey. But you know, talk about burying the lede! It sounds like maybe you aren’t very serious about this guy you have been dating for two years, because you don’t call him your boyfriend. Still, two years is a really long time to just date someone casually and you obviously don’t want to lose him. I vote tell him. Tell him because you need to see if he’s is someone worth keeping. I can’t say if your relationship will be secure once you tell him, because I don’t know how he will feel about dating someone who is bisexual. But if you lose him, then good riddance. Biphobia is definitely something you will encounter along your journey, Share. But there are plenty of people who will be totally cool with it and these are the people who are worth your time and affection.

On another note, it’s really unclear to me whether or not you and this guy are monogamous. If you are monogamous, then you probably shouldn’t get numbers from cute concession stand workers. Going out with women when you are in a relationship with a man is only okay if you and that man have discussed this and everyone is fine with that arrangement- including the women you want to date. Communication to all romantic partners is so important when you are dating more than one person. That holds true no matter what your orientation.

Best of luck, Share! Let us know how it goes!

xoxo

The Femme

Have a question for me? Shoot me an email at askafemme@yahoo.com

About the Artist: Lee Ely is a Brooklyn based illustrator. For more about them visit http://www.latewerks.com or purchase their work at https://society6.com/latewerks.

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BY ABBY WALLER
Lesbian.com

Meet Queer Abby, our new advice columnist, feel free to ask her anything in the comments below or write to her directly at abagailwaller@gmail.com.

Brandon writes:

Hi Abby!

My question has a bit of background to it. I’m a male straight ally, but there’s always been a connection between myself and bi women. I was friends with a lesbian couple back in college. One half of that couple started wondering if she was bi. She trusted me, So she asked that I help her test the theory. Her girlfriend seemed cool with it, but there was too much potential for drama. Consequently, I decided to wait on that for a bit.  Good thing I did, as the other half expressed some insecurity later on.  This has become a running theme in my love life. Bi girls express interest, and others in the LGBT community feel somewhat threatened by that. Is there a right way to navigate this phenomenon?

Trusted Ally Brandon

Dear T.A.B.,

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But dating a bisexual girl isn’t always a rose garden. There are some things to avoid, and some things to always bear in mind. These tips should help to put your relationship on a firmer footing.

Avoid Falling into Stereotypes About Bisexual Women
Don’t assume that your lover is a closet lesbian or secretly straight. Things are never as simple as that. 99 percent of the time, when a bisexual girl tells you that she’s bisexual, she means just that. She is genuinely attracted to members of both sexes, and isn’t “experimenting” or “going through a phase.”

So, if you are worried about your partner choosing guys, try to put it to the back of your mind. She’s serious about you – as serious as any lesbian partner could be, and she’s not just using you to get some kicks before she gets married and starts a family.

Don’t Assume your Partner is Sexually Greedy

Another myth that lesbians sometimes fall into is to assume that their bisexual partner is somehow “greedy” and unserious about love. That’s a misreading of what bisexuality really is, and it can cripple your relationship.

The truth is that bisexuals aren’t any more sexually promiscuous or greedy than straight, trans or lesbian people. They may have more options, but this doesn’t mean that they will act on them. They’re most likely focused on who they are with and what makes them special, and aren’t playing the field.

Always Make your Bisexual Partner feel like Part of the Scene

Make your bisexual partner feel accepted and wanted. Don’t freeze them out if they don’t conform to how you feel a lesbian partner should look, act and even talk.

Sometimes, bisexual girls aren’t integrated into social circles. It’s as if they aren’t taken seriously, or seen as less authentic, or even deceptive. Always try to avoid that path, and make sure your friends get to know your lover. Freezing them out is a big no-no.

Monitor the Warning Signs to see if She’s Serious

Having said that most bisexual women really are into both sexes, some girls who appear on the scene claiming to be bi really are just looking to experiment and have a little fun on the side. That’s why you need to be careful about which bisexual women you date, and how quickly it becomes serious.

If your new partner hasn’t posted photos of you as a couple on Facebook or introduces you to her social group as a “friend,” alarm bells should start ringing.

How serious is she really about building a proper relationship if she can’t be honest and open about her sexuality? She might be coy about coming out. That’s fine. But she might also be playing with you. It’s a tough call, but it’s always worth being sensitive, at least for the first couple of months.

Be Honest About Sexual Health from the Start

STDs are another tricky subject, but it’s something you need to be honest about. Many lesbians see bisexual girls as “dirty” or somehow dangerous, as if they are trying to contaminate their community with STDs. That’s not fair, and it’s the kind of hostility that can torpedo relationships, but you do need to talk about your sexual past.

Dating a bisexual girl doesn’t have to be tough. If you’re sensible about not getting swept away by the wrong girl, take your partner’s sexuality seriously and bring them into your social scene, it all becomes much easier.

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It’s Bisexual Awareness Week! Why do we need bisexual awareness? If your reaction to that questions is, ‘ugh bisexuals,’ then congrats! You’re the reason this week was invented. Bisexuals face biphobia from both the queer and heterosexual community. Ask any bisexual person whether they feel accepted by the LGBT community and the answer is bound to be long and complicated. Words hurt and lead to bisexual erasure. The LGBT community really needs to band together and support our B’s. This is a list of things that you might already know you shouldn’t say to a bisexual person. Nope, not even when you’re “just kidding.”

1. I don’t have a problem with bisexual people, but I wouldn’t date one.

2. Does that mean you will cheat on everyone because you can’t be satisfied with one gender?

3. I don’t think bisexuality exists.

4. Wait, which do you like more: men or women?

5. You’re just bi because it’s cool now.

6. Pick a side.

7. Bisexual people can’t be monogamous because they can’t make up their minds.

8. Bisexual people always end up in hetero relationships.

9. Bisexuality is just a stop on the train to Gay Town.

10. You’re in a straight relationship right now, so you’re straight now.

Look at these statements and soak in how invasive and rude they are. All of your bisexual friends (and exes) have probably encountered people who’ve said this to them. So do your part by being supportive of your bisexual friends and calling out biphobia next time one of your friends starts hating. Anything you would add to this list? Let us know in the comments.

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Nicole Pacent on set of of SHE4ME filming at the Andaz West Hollywood
(Photo by Rodney Bursiel)

BY NATASIA LANGFELDER
Lesbian.com

The talented Nicole Pacent is an actress, singer and model. She’s also one of the few out bisexual women in Hollywood. Her fans know her best from the web series, “Anyone But Me,” in which she portrayed the lovable Aster. Now, she’s back and starring in the SHE4ME PSA for marriage equality alongside actress Gabrielle Christian.

As a member of the LGBT community, Nicole has a vested interest in furthering equality. She sat down with Lesbian.com to discuss the behind-the-scenes fun on the SHE4ME set and her advice to fans on how to navigate the world as a bisexual person.

How did you first hear of the SHE4ME PSA and why did you choose to get involved with this project?

Well, really, I was sort of there when it was being conceived. I heard about it from my manager Sue Melke. She introduced me to Nicole Conn because they had been speaking about it and collaborating.

Nicole wanted to bring me on board as the bride and I just jumped on board. From there, the next thing we had to do was find another bride. It really was a meeting of minds. I decided to do it because it’s a cause I’m very passionate about, obviously, and I like Nicole Conn’s aesthetic.

What was it like working with director Nicole Conn?

Nicole is really clear on what she wants. It’s always great to work with a director who is that way, that way you can give them what they want. It’s refreshing.

Did you know Gabrielle Christian was going to play the other bride?

Sue forwarded me some ideas on who would be playing the second bride. When they settled on Gaby, it was really cool because we had sort of been orbiting in the same circle for so long, but we had never met or worked together. So we finally got to meet. She is such a doll.

Judging from the blooper reel, there was a lot of fun on the set. Can you dish on any of the behind the scenes hijinks?

It was all shot in one day! There were so many moving parts that everything was going on at once. There was no time for anything really crazy like would happen on a longer shoot. But the atmosphere was very jovial the whole time and during the wedding scene people just started doing funny dances. Everyone was just really happy to be there and have fun with each other.

You’ve been out as a bisexual woman for most of your career. How do you think that’s affected your journey?

It has affected it vastly. I can’t imagine how the journey would be different in terms of being more positive or negative thus far. I really don’t know. I’m glad I did it. In terms of the feedback, I’ve never gotten flack for it as far as I know. Everyone has been really accepting both within the gay community and outside of it. It’s really been wonderful.

Part of Aster’s popularity was because I was out to the fan base. I got a lot more projects out of that. I don’t know how things would have been different. It shaped it in ways I’m aware of and not aware of. But I’ve never doubted it and I’ve never second guessed it.

What would tell young fans who may be struggling with their bisexuality?

There are challenges that bisexuals face that you don’t get if you’re straight or gay. People don’t have enough information. And I’ve experienced that in my life. But in terms of my experience with work it hasn’t been a problem so far, which is awesome.

People message me about this all the time and it’s really hard because I wish I had time to respond to all of them. I would say there’s no blanket anecdote in terms of coming out for everybody. It’s different for everyone based on family situations or the country you live in. I can’t say come out and be who you are because it’s not that easy in many environments.

But that said, the more that you are able to be yourself and accept yourself as who you are, not only the happier you’re going to be, but the less you are just going keep hiding for your whole life. Whether they’re a total nerd or a cheerleader or if you have a non-traditional sexuality, if you spend your whole life fighting that, you’ll get tired after a while. It wears on you. It’s generally just a better path to go down to accept who you are and trust you’ll find your way. I really do believe that.

Finding spaces that are more accepting and attending support groups are always really good ideas. Connecting with other people, making sure you don’t feel alone. Those things are paramount. For me, it was so important to be surrounded by the bisexual and gay community even before I came out.

It’s so cliche, I know! But the older I get I have to tell you that’s what it’s all about. The constant struggle of having to let go of the idea that I have to be something other than what I am. It’s not worth it. It’s a losing battle. Just be who you are!

“South of Nowhere” ended in 2008 and many fans were able to dry their tears by moving onto “Anyone But Me.” In fact, one of the YouTube comments on the video is “Aster + Spencer = Perfection.” Do you think Spencer and Aster would have ever hooked up?

That’s so funny! I think from Aster’s point of view, she was so young. Vivian was her second girlfriend, but like first real love. Spencer and Aster could definitely have slept together maybe later in life.

Tell us about your favorite interaction with a fan.

Oh man, there are so many, especially because I’m now friends with some fans as a result. I remember this one instance quite well. A couple years back, before “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” was repealed, there a woman who messaged me and came out to me. She couldn’t tell anyone but me. She wasn’t out to anyone else. But she had seen “Anyone But Me” and she felt like I provided a safe space where she could be herself. Her job was defending our country and she couldn’t come out. That was pretty incredible. I have to say that messages like that where people have come out because of “Anyone But Me” or because I’m out about my sexuality or anything like that is endlessly inspiring to me and sort of unbelievable.

If you could star in a remake of any movie, which movie would you choose?

“Star Wars!” There’s not even a question in my mind. I could die happy if I was in that.

I would want to be Princess Leia 110 percent. She’s such an awesome female character. I grew up playing Princess Leia on the playground. I love that time period, too, episodes 4-6, of course!

In my adult years, I’ve been able to look back at it and appreciate it on so many other levels, including how strong Leia is as a female character. She is tough and she’s sarcastic and in charge and not submissive at all. She’s just feisty and fun with a dry sense of humor. She’s the type of character I would love to play.

Where can your fans find you?

There are a couple things in the works. There’s a short film that I did that’s going to be released mid-April, “It’s a Cold Cold Night.” I play a pretty funny, wacko character my fans will love.

And, if you are in Los Angeles, you can see me in “A Midsummer Night’s Dream” and “All’s Well That Ends Well” at my theater company. Check my Twitter or Facebook, if you want to know more.

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Last week The Atlantic published an article entitled “Bisexuality on TV: It’s Getting Better.” The article explains that although the quantity of bisexual characters is still very limited, with currently only 18 bisexual regular or recurring female characters in all of prime time television, the quality is improving. The article cites characters like Callie Torres of “Grey’s Anatomy” and Kalinda Sharma of “The Good Wife” as examples of well-drawn, fully realized, characters while pointing out that other characters, like Piper Chapman of “Orange is the New Black” and Pam from “True Blood” are a bit more problematic. I agree that it’s helpful to acknowledge how far we’ve come in terms of bisexual visibility in the media. However, I’m not convinced that representations of bisexuals on television have improved as much as we’d like to believe.

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Kyrsten Sinema, a former Arizona state senator, has become the first openly bisexual lawmaker to be elected to Congress.

Sinema, a Democrat representing the Arizona’s 9th District, is an out bisexual woman and a secularist. She could hardly have been more different from her Tea Party affiliated Republican opposition in this race, Vernon Parker.

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Google has received much praise from the LGBT community for the way it treats its LGBT workers and its Legalize Love campaign that aims to tackle anti-homosexuality laws around the world. However, while Google has certainly been at the leading edge of LGBT advocacy, for one group under that umbrella — bisexuals — there has been a sticking point: that the term bisexual was treated as a dirty word by the Google search engine.

Since late 2009 Google has classified the term “bisexual” as being primarily used for finding adult content, and as such deprioratized the term, meaning that its auto-suggest feature would not bring up phrases relating to bisexuality, including content such as bisexual support groups. This meant that while the content was still searchable through Google, it was not as easy to find as gay advice websites or lesbian support groups.

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