A photo posted by Glennon Doyle Melton (@glennondoylemelton) on Nov 24, 2016 at 4:32pm PST

Christian mommy blogger, Glennon Doyle Melton, announced her relationship with US Soccer star Abby Wambach on social media in November. Melton took to both Instagram and Facebook to make the announcement; which came two months after Wambach announced her divorce and three months after Melton announced her own divorce.

As most of us remember, Wambach was married to fellow soccer star Sarah Huffman. The two were married in 2013. Rumors of trouble in their relationship started surfacing after Wambach was arrested for a DUI in 2015. Melton, for her part, was married to a man for 10 years and wrote two books about saving her marriage. Melton also has a history of substance abuse. However, she indicated that the two women are building a relationship based on faith. Read the full post below. Best of luck to the new couple!

[[[LOVE WINS ANNOUNCEMENT PART ONE]]] Feels like the world could use all the love it can get right now. So today, I’m going to share with you my new love. Her name is Abby. You might recognize her from soccer. She was one of the best players of all time, and she has been a fierce and committed advocate for women’s equality for a decade. And honestly? Those are the least impressive things about her. Abby is deeply sensitive and kind. The kids call her an M&M because she looks tough on the outside but inside she’s really mushy and sweet. Abby’s brave. Not just with her words but with her entire being. She’s unwaveringly good to Craig, to the kids, to Sister and to all my people. And oh my God, she is so good to me. She loves me for all the things I’ve always wanted to be loved for. She’s just my favorite. My person. Wanted to answer a few questions you might have: Isn’t this fast, G? Yes, it is. How is Craig? He’s his beautiful, kind, brave self. He’s dating too — and we are both supportive of each other’s relationships. How are the kids? I’ll let them speak for themselves, or not. I can tell you that as usual, we’re walking through this together. They have the love and support of their dad, me, their grandparents, their aunts and uncles, their church, their teachers, their friends’ families. They’re lucky kids, to be surrounded by so much love. We have family dinners together – all six of us — and Abby cooks. (She is an AMAZING chef because Jesus loves me). We are a modern, beautiful family. Our children are loved. So loved. And because of all of that love, they are brave. When Craig and I sat them down to tell them about Abby I started by saying: “In our family, we live and tell the truth about who we are no matter what, and then love each other through it — and I’m about to show you how that’s done.” [[CONTINUED IN LOVE WINS PART TWO]]]

A photo posted by Glennon Doyle Melton (@glennondoylemelton) on Nov 13, 2016 at 5:55pm PST

[[[LOVE WINS PART TWO, CONTINUED FROM PART ONE]]] How are we supposed to FEEL about this? My loves, here is the good news: You are allowed to think and feel WHATEVER YOU NEED OR WANT TO FEEL! Come close–because I need to explain this part well: It has been my job for so long as a leader in this community to care deeply about what you think and feel about me and the way I live my life. I have cared so much, for so long. It has been a great honor. Now we are entering a new time which calls for a different type of leadership. And now it is my job as a leader not to concern myself too deeply about what you think and feel about me- about the way I live my life. That is what I want to model now, because that is what I want for YOU: I want you to grow so comfortable in your own being, your own skin, your own knowing – that you become more interested in your own joy and freedom and integrity than in what others think about you. I want you to refuse to betray yourself. Not just for you. For ALL OF US. Because what the world needs — in order to grow, in order to relax, in order to find peace, in order to become brave — is to watch one woman at a time live her truth without asking for permission or offering explanation. The most revolutionary thing a woman can do is not explain herself. What I need you to know- and what I know you need to know- is that I am deeply, finally, FINE. Fine through my bones and soul and mind and just every fiber of me. You have the room to feel and react with your truth….because I am so unshakably certain inside of mine. I have officially become a woman who knows who she is and refuses to betray herself. So anyway. What I’m trying to say is. PRECIOUS WORLD: I LOVE ABBY. Love Wins. G

A photo posted by Glennon Doyle Melton (@glennondoylemelton) on Nov 13, 2016 at 5:57pm PST

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Dear Femme,

This isn’t a dating question or anything but I hope you can help. I’ve recently moved to a new city and I fell in with a group of queer women. They have accepted me and I feel so happy to have finally found my people. Lately, a friend of one of my new friends has been coming to everything the group does. Let’s call her Karen. She’s really cool. She’s a singer and her career is taking off. She’s great looking and always the life of party. Whenever we walk into a bar everyone pays attention to us and bartenders treat her like a VIP. She’s so much fun and I enjoy being with her. I thought this was going to be the start of a great friendship. There’s one problem. She’s a Trump supporter.

She’s never mentioned this in front of the friend group. But I noticed that she commented on a celebrity’s Instagram. The celebrity (she’s queer and we both follow her) posted an anti-Trump meme and the comments were mostly people agreeing. But then I saw that Karen had commented. She was disagreeing. She said that Trump’s not racist and that people are putting words in his mouth. Then she argued with people who told her she was wrong, saying that they didn’t know him and had no proof. She came off like a bigoted idiot.

I don’t think I can be friends with someone who supports Trump. I moved away from my small town in order to get away from people like that. I’m disappointed in her and I don’t know what to do. Making the friend group choose between hanging out with her or me is petty and beneath me. And deep down I’m scared that they will choose her over me. I also don’t want to confront her over the issue and I’m not sure that there’s a third option. What should I do?

-Dump Trump

Dear Dump Trump,
What a pickle! I totally get why you wouldn’t want to hang out with this girl. She sounds terrible. It’s always surprising to me when a queer person (or a Latino person or a Muslim person) supports Trump. But they are out there! This election has made everyone go absolutely insane, the stakes are higher than ever and everything feels very personal. This has wrecked havoc on personal relationships. I feel like all advice columnists have had to deal with a “My spouse likes Trump and I hate him” question. However, your question is a little different, because this is a low-stakes friendship and not your life partner. So, yay for that, right?

Moving on- okay so you found out your new lezbro is terrible. I’m sorry, that sucks! If she wasn’t in your friend group, I would say to just pull the “slow fade” on her and just stop reaching out to her to hang out, take a long time to respond to texts and cancel plans, etc. I know that sounds terrible but sometimes it’s the kindest way to end things. I would still recommend doing something similar to this. You guys are acquaintances, so if you
don’t have her number don’t get it. Be polite but never initiate contact. There are plenty of friend groups that have members who orbit around each other. So orbit around her, be nice but standoffish. As long as she doesn’t mention Trump in front of you, don’t ruffle feathers.

That being said, if Karen does mention her support of Trump, I think you should tell her that you find his morals reprehensible, you are disappointed in her for supporting him and you aren’t interested in discussing him with her. Say it in a neutral tone, but firmly. Chances are if Karen is crazy enough to support Trump, there’s no reasonable or sane argument you could make to change her mind. She may also be looking for a fight, Trump supporters can be violent, so be sure not to give her one.

I would also mention the interaction you saw on Instagram to a few of the members of your crew. If they are anti-racist, then this may change the way they think about Karen as well. Don’t ask them to pick between you two, as they become aware of who Karen is underneath the partying and good looks, they might want to ditch her as well.

Good luck! Let us know how it goes!
Xoxo

The Femme
Have a question for me? Shoot me an email at askafemme@yahoo.com

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Everyone’s favorite U.S. Women’s Soccer Team mid-fielder, Megan Rapinoe, announced her engagement to singer-songwriter Sera Cahoone. Rapinoe has long been recognized as a force to reckon with on the soccer field and was recently launched into the public eye with the U.S. Women’s Soccer team World Cup Win. She came out early in her athletic career and has given back to the LGBT community, through advocacy with Athlete Ally, an organization dedicated to ending homophobia and transphobia in sports, as well as GLSEN, the Gay Lesbian and Straight education center. Celebrate Rapinoe’s and Cahoone’s engagement with a look back at their cutest moments!

1. When they got engaged!

This little lady’s getting married ❤️

A photo posted by Megan Rapinoe (@mrapinoe) on Aug 6, 2015 at 7:49pm PDT

2. When they kissed at the ESPY’s:

Everything is better with my main squeeze. #ESPYS @seracahoone A video posted by Megan Rapinoe (@mrapinoe) on Jul 16, 2015 at 10:02am PDT

3.When they soaked up culture while on vacation:

Sera and I ❤️….aaaaaand Paulo. @seracahoone

A photo posted by Megan Rapinoe (@mrapinoe) on Mar 7, 2015 at 9:40am PST

4. When they kept each other warm:

❤️

A photo posted by Megan Rapinoe (@mrapinoe) on Jan 22, 2015 at 10:36pm PST

5. When they took a romantic boat ride:

Where you lookin’ sugar?! @seracahoone

A photo posted by Megan Rapinoe (@mrapinoe) on Sep 14, 2014 at 11:49am PDT

Congratulations to the happy couple! May they continue to be lesbian #cutespiration for years to come.

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