Vicki and Tiffany during the holidays

BY Lesbian.com

Meet Vicki and Tiffany, a couple whose fairytale romance was many years in the making before it bloomed into true love!

She is my best friend, my lover, the person with whom I will be in love forever: My wife, Tiffany S. Wilson.

We met 15 years ago while serving a 1 year military tour in the Republic of Korea. She was from New Orleans and I, from New York. At that time we were both in different relationships and still growing into ourselves as adults. Tiffany was introduced to me by a mutual friend and we may have seen each other a total of 5-6 times while stationed in Korea. I returned to the state of Georgia and Tiffany went to Tennessee where she discontinued her military career. I, Vicki A. Grant, continued to blossom in the military while dealing with relationship after relationship and searching for myself.

Tiffany and I continued to keep in touch. It was not an everyday communication type of relationship, but we shared the little things that happened in our lives. My daughter had a birthday, she gave birth to a son. We went through other romantic relationships, promotions in our jobs, a new house for one of us and other important things that occurred.

Hurricane Katrina  brought Tiffany and her family to Las Vegas and in December 2009, a military temporary duty assignment (TDY) brought me to Las Vegas as well for 4 days. Tiffany and I after years of not having seen each other face to face. Once again, we were both dealing with other relationships. She was with her then girlfriend for 2 years and I was just starting a new relationship chapter. After my trip to Vegas we remained in contact.

The couple having a whole lot of fun!

It was January 2012 when I received a text out the blue from Ms. Wilson asking “how you doing,” the usual question we would ask. I replied with, “I need to call you later.” At that time I was again on another temporary duty assignment (TDY), this time in Arkansas. We spoke that night for hours. We were both single and working on ourselves. The last breakups were hard to deal with. We began talking on the phone every day, coping with the weekend trips, and building a relationship that was strong and pure, we decided it would be best for one of us to relocate. On June 15 2012, I packed up my home, daughter and our dog and moved to Las Vegas, where we now live and hope to love happily ever after. I know it sounds like a fairytale, but this is the best thing that has ever happened to me and we continue to smile and take things one day at a time.

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Meet Ruth and Michelle, who found love in a surprising place.

I rarely read the Craigslist women-seeking-women posts. Most of them seemed to be written by women who were home alone for a few hours and just wanted to fool around. Still, that night eight years ago, for some reason I couldn’t explain, I clicked on them. When I entered the key word “spiritual,” it eliminated 99% of the ads. And there she was.

Ruth, top, and Michelle.

Her ad had a cheesy title – “Are You Out There?” But she was in my age range and nearby so I clicked to read it.

She was looking for someone who, like her, placed spirituality at the center of her life. I was a spiritually-oriented therapist. She mentioned that on some days she identified as butch, but on other days “I find labels problematic.” I’m femme-of-center, but have been called “butch in the sheets. ” I was a poet who’d published three books of poems; she said that the woman she sought “would bring at least three books on an outing to the beach, including a book of poems.”

She would be my next partner. There was no doubt in my mind.

“Be prepared to have an engaging email correspondence before meeting,” she’d written. And indeed we started one. Soon we were emailing each other long letters two or three times a day. She told me about the time she ran away from home at 13. I told her about my sister’s mental illness. She told me that her first partner had been abusive to her. I told her about the breakup that had shattered my heart, and how it had led me to change my life and become a healer.

Two weeks later, when I walked into the café where we were meeting, I spotted her right away. She was a tall woman with a slightly ungainly gait, and the sweetest face I’d ever seen. We sat at a table by the window and sipped our tea long past the time when it went cold. It seemed we would never run out of things to say!

I was used to meeting perfectly nice women, but feeling nothing for them. This time it was different. I was moved by Michelle – her brilliance and her vulnerability, both. Disappointed when she said she had to leave, I walked her to her car. Later she told me she’d watched me walk away down the street, thinking, “I like that woman!”

Does God(dess), or the great Lesbian Matchmaker in the sky, make use of the internet? I’m quite sure she does. I found out later that Michelle’s personal ad had come to her mind, fully written, one afternoon while she was meditating. Good meditator that she was, she gently pushed it away. But when it came back again the following day, she sighed, opened her laptop, typed it in, posted it, and then went back to following her breath.

The very next day, I “just happened” to check the Craigslist ads for the first time in years.

It’s been almost eight years now, years of a lot of change. We moved cross country together; we moved back to California again. We’ve seen each other through illness, financial struggles, life coaching and family crises. Through it all, our connection to each other has only grown deeper.

The first thing most people notice is that Michelle is Black, and I’m white. It’s never been an issue for us. Sometimes we like to say we come from the same home planet.

Neither of us ever wanted to have children, but we’ve both strongly motivated to help others. Michelle’s background is in Neuroscience; she attended seminary, and has had a Buddhist meditation practice for 20 years. I’m a therapist, healer and writer. Between the two of us, we’ve taught at seven universities, and published 14 books. But our life experience, and our years of painful relationships, have been our greatest teachers. We feel we’ve discovered the tools for happy, healthy love. To share this with the world, together we’ve launched “Conscious Girlfriend: Your Path to Happy, Healthy Lesbian/Queer Relationships.”

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Filmmaker Gabrielle Lindau and her fiancée, illustrator Emily Bowers, share a story of love blooming from friendship into a deeply committed union.

An artsy shot of Gabrielle and Emily.

It was early spring when my friend Alana Landa texted me one afternoon from Miami. Alana had recently interviewed me for Chick’tellectual Magazine. She had a friend named Emily Bowers who she thought I would get along great with. Alana insisted that Emily and I had a lot in common even if nothing romantic developed out of the relationship. We decided to give each other a chance and began a friendship over the phone and through social networks. It wasn’t until one year later that both of our lives would put us even closer together. We found ourselves living not far from one another and we began spending much time together as friends.

It was on one hot summer night that everything shifted for us. We had spent this night laughing over drinks and listening to music at a local wine bar. We realized that even before our relationship turned intimate we had already begun falling in love with each other. Our friendship started to blossom into a beautiful, loving, creative, intimate relationship. By the end of the summer we decided to fully commit to one another and became engaged.

There are so many things we love about one another. Everyday we fall more and more in love. Our creative sides are both a turn on and an intellectual stimulation for our relationship. We both love our beach days and reading to one another. We also both adore our black and tan King Charles Cavalier, Willa. The three of us go on outdoor adventures together and snuggle up late at night to watch movies.

Gabrielle and Emily’s adorable dog, Willa.

We both knew we were the girls for each other when one day I asked Emily to run away with me. She said “Isn’t that what’s already happening?” Together we are one.

Gabrielle and Emily are working on a cookbook project together called “It Tastes Like Chicken.” Lesbian.com recently featured the project in our interview with Gabrielle.

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Rebecca tells the story of meeting her other half Natalie in a place she never thought she would meet anybody! Oh, yea. This story is going live on their fifth anniversary!

We met at one of the least likely places to find anybody, Natalie’s work. I had been frequenting the dog park across the street and felt strangely drawn to the restaurant. On one of my weekly outings with Holly and Bray (a couple that I would try a new restaurant with every night) I found myself picking Spitfire Grill as the choice for that night. Walking in and seeing Natalie’s beaming face and upbeat attitude, I hoped I was going to get in as much trouble as I felt I might. After eating dinner Holly, Bray and I went to the bar to have another glass of wine and started talking to Natalie.  Both Natalie and I were unsure if the other  had the same attraction but kept talking back and forth until Natalie at one point said point blank, “I’m single and I AM GAY.” After that revelation it was just a matter of time until one of us figured out how to ask the other out. Unfortunately, the night had other plans and Holly and I had to bring Bray home; I could only hope I would see Natalie again. Later, I learned that Natalie had seen us leaving as she was on her way to ask me out. She told Shane (a co-worker), “Well, she knows were I work!”

The next morning I was determined to ask Natalie out; she had told me she started work at 11 AM.  After  plenty of self pep talks, I headed back over to Spitfire in the hopes that Natalie would be there. Everything leading up to that point had been easy… until the anxiety of asking a girl out that I hardly knew — and at her place of business! — set in. I walked through the door and didn’t see Natalie, but saw Shane who had been there the night before. I approached the bar, hands shaking, with no idea whether Natalie was even there or if I was just going to make a fool of myself. Nervously, I ordered a glass of wine and tried to stop the shaking tremors from spilling the right wine out of my hand. After just one sip, I asked Shane if Natalie was around.  He leaned over, looked to my right and kept calling for Natalie.  It took four attempts before he finally yelled, “NATALIE!”

“What do you want Shane?!”

That’s when Natalie realized I was at the bar and the excitement in her face made all my apprehension melt.  It only took Natalie 5 minutes to make sure we were going out the next day. She beat me to the punch!

That was 5 years ago this February 23. This July is our second wedding anniversary. We went on a Sweet vacation for our Honeymoon and had an amazing time. We are working on starting our family and enjoying every step of married bliss! This story is a testament to the fact you can meet “the one” anywhere… because she is THE ONE!!

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Meet Samantha and Alexa, soul-mates who got together 16 years after they met. The ladies now run the family catering business and started their own gourmet specialties division, focusing on sweet delights with organic ingredient and minimal processing. Now that’s delicious!

Alexa, left, and Samantha, right, sweethearts for life!

My life partner Alexa and I met in the 1980s when I went to work for her dad in the family catering business, Lemleys’ Catering. It was love at first sight. Even though she was only 14, Alexa knew that we were soul-mates meant to spend our lives together. I was the holdout. Still, we were inseparable until I went away to college.

While we remained friends throughout the years, I remained afraid to commit to her as a partner. Sixteen years after we first met, I moved back home and rejoined Alexa working in the family business. One day she looked at me and told me that she had enough of my crap, and I needed to realize that we were meant to share our lives together. That was almost eight years ago. We have been a couple ever since.

We still continue to live and work together. When Alexa’s father retired, we assumed operation of the family business and added our own division: 240sweet (www.240sweet.com). We make gourmet marshmallows, salts, sugars and extracts. This month, we are making a big move to a new location of the family business better for visitors to come see us. It has been a lot of hard work to grow and change. Both Alexa and I agree that we make each other better people. Life is so exciting!

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Lauren and Darcie are a beautiful pair from San Francisco that  love their communities as much as they love each other. After Darcie had all but given up on true love, Lauren stole her heart!

Lauren, left, and Darcie, on their wedding day.

Who they are:

Lauren: I am a Deputy Sheriff with the Marin County Sheriff’s Department.

Darcie: I’m currently a private childcare provider who enjoys volunteering whenever I can. I am fortunate to work with a non-profit that helps provide a tuition-free, literacy-focused after school and summer program for underserved youth in the Tenderloin and Western Addition neighborhoods of San Francisco. I have also had the amazing opportunity over the last year to be a part of creating some community service projects for Sweet. Besides my wife, my volunteer work makes my heart truly happy. I’d say my philosophy in approaching life is to try and make things better than when I found them and to respect all things around me. I admit I am far from perfect but continually strive to be a better person. I hope to be an example for younger generations. I want foster a fascination and respect for the environment by connecting inner city youth with the outdoors.

Darcie: Lauren and I are the couple that doesn’t go out as often as some but love to have a good time.  We especially love adventures and being active whenever we can. Our favorite thing to do is to pack an awesome picnic and take a day trip down the coastline, to wine country, hiking, zip lining or whatever we come up with next! We love to make dinner together or with friends and have good conversations with great food and a glass of wine.

Lauren: If I had to name a “philosophy” for our life it would definitely be that we like to give back to the community and help others. Darcie has set up multiple volunteer projects that serve at-risk youth. She keeps me busy with volunteer projects!

Love stories all start somewhere:

Lauren: We met in 2005. I was still in college and I worked at a coffee shop with one of Darcie’s friends. I can remember the first time we met, I thought she was so beautiful. That mutual friend ended up having a birthday party later in the year, and Darcie and I were both invited. We just hit it off, we were inseparable, and have been for 7 years now. Darcie is my family now.

How they got together:

Lauren: I don’t remember who asked who out! We just both gravitated toward each other.

Darcie: I think it was Lauren who asked me out first. We went to her friend’s potluck soup party for the first half of the night. I was nervous to be in a room filled with her friends but felt comfortable and happy to be with her. It was so packed, we sat on the floor and held hands while we chatted with the people around us. We ended up talking in the car for two hours before we said good night. And it was a good night.

How they knew it was the real thing:

Lauren: There is no one single thing that makes Darcie “the one.” She is the complete package. She is such an amazing woman: beautiful, smart and she has the kindest heart. We share a lot of the same interests (cooking, camping, being outdoors). I guess I knew she was the one when I started thinking about my future, she was always in the picture.

Darcie: When I first met Lauren, I was recovering from a relationship that had really brought me to my knees. I had decided forever love didn’t exist and that while I was able to be very committed to her and had no interest in dating other people, I couldn’t say we were going to be together forever. This put a little strain in the way we viewed our relationship but we knew we loved one another deeply and had no desire to breakup. We moved in together one year after we started dating. It was about three years into our relationship when I had a glorious realization. I realized how truly in love I am with her and even the slightest thought of losing her made my heart feel sadness I can’t express. It was that exact moment I started to plan how I was going to propose to her.

The Proposal and Celebrations

Darcie: Lauren and I love to take photo booth photos together and have been collecting photo strips since we started dating. I hatched this plan to propose to her in a photo booth and secretly invited all of our friends to be witnesses and celebrate in our love with us. (I hope that’s not too squishy or makes you want to hurl!) Even when forty of our friends just “happened to be at the bar” where the photo booth is, she had no idea I had set it all up. When we headed into the booth to take a photo, I had my best friend switch out the new photo strip for one I had taken earlier that day while Lauren was out work. This photo strip pictured me with a different heart in each of the four frames that read ” Will You Marry Me?” As she looked at the photo strip after we came out of the booth our friends gathered around us and I got down on one knee and asked her to marry me. She was speechless. She finally choked out a “yes” through tears of joy. Phew. We were married a little over a year later in September of 2011.

Lauren: Darcie and I got married (unfortunately not legally, but we are domestic partners) in September of 2011. We did the whole thing in Golden Gate park, all outdoors. We had the ceremony at the Dutch Windmill, then had a catered picnic wedding in Marx Meadow. It was such an amazing day. We relied heavily on friends and family to bring the whole thing to fruition, and everyone came together to make it amazing! We had originally planned to get married on 09/10/11 but we had to change plans when we found out a free concert was being held in the park that same day. We didn’t want to compete with thousands of people so we switched the date to the following weekend. It worked out great because 09/10/11 was an ugly overcast day, and the day we ended up getting married it was 80 degrees, sunny and beautiful the whole day!

What challenges have you been through that have cemented your bond?

Lauren: Going through the Police Academy was definitely a challenge. I spent 5 months training in Windsor. I lived there Monday-Friday and would only come home to San Francisco on the weekends. Even when I was home, I was usually studying and preparing for the upcoming week. Darcie was extremely supportive of me during that time. She gave me a ton of encouragement and even let me practice my handcuffing and arrest techniques on her!

Darcie: Lauren worked a graveyard shift for three years up until a few months ago. She would come home from work at 7 AM and I would walk out the door for work at 7:15. We didn’t have any days off together and the time we did have, I was often beat from ten hour work days. By the time the end of dinner rolled around, I was ready for bed. Meanwhile, she would be up until at least 3 AM because of the schedule she was on. It was nearly impossible for us to find time to connect and be with one another. At times it put a tremendous strain on us because we felt like ships passing in the night. We started making formal dates to remind ourselves how lucky we are to have each other and to make what time we did have meaningful and worthwhile. We learned to put true efforts into communicating effectively what we were feeling and committed ourselves to not giving up. We chose to see the tough place we were in as a temporary stop on our journey together. Our bigger picture was worth it. Without the tough times, because we all know they happen no matter how amazing a relationship is, we wouldn’t be us. We’re partners, in every sense of the word. She’s my best friend, my biggest fan, someone who challenges me while lifting me up, my lover, my love, my wife.

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Wouldn’t YOU want to be Rachel Maddow’s Valentine? (Photo: AfterEllen)

BY AFTERELLEN

Looking for a special Valentine’s Day card for that special pop culture-lovin’ gay lady in your life? Well, look no further! AfterEllen has assembled a collection of 15 very special cards that say “I love you” better than Hallmark ever could.

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Comedian Sandra Valls and the love of her life Jackie of Los Angeles are a powerhouse couple. From their very first date, their love has been a force of nature, hotter than Hades, the kind of one in a million connection that is the basis for every great love story. Sandra answered Lesbian.com’s prying questions, letting us into what makes their love just so incredible.

Sandra, left, and Jackie, doing what they do best.

When/how did you meet?

We met at work. I had just moved to Los Angeles and was working as a greeter at a career college and Jackie was an assistant director of admissions. I would see her walking to and from the elevator every day. She was always laughing and positive and beautiful and glowing and wow! I would think, “I want a girlfriend just like her!”

Who asked who out? What was your first date like?

I finally asked her out for a drink after work. It was a spontaneous, impulsive decision. I just blurted it out. I had to know what all this flirting was about! Was it innocent flirting or was she really into me? We went to this really cool, cozy bar in Silver Lake called the Lucky Bar (no pun intended) and I tried to impress her by ordering “that blue drink with the umbrella in it.” I’m more of a jack and coke girl but I thought, “This is the kind of fancy girl who likes that kind of fancy drink. I don’t know!” Don’t judge me. I was nervous. So I ordered a blue drink for both of us… then another and another. I don’t know how many blue drinks we had. All I know is that the minute we walked out that bar we attacked each other and were fiercely making out, against parked cars, rolling to the pavement, slamming each other onto the car hoods…my shirt was torn and filthy from rubbing against car doors. It was an earth-shattering first date and first kiss. We still make out like savages!

Wow! So, what do you love most about her, besides the kissing?

Her spirit. I see her spirit. I connect to it. And that’s all encompassing.

How did you know she was “the one”?

I knew she was the one because we are a perfect, beautiful balance. Where I lack, she provides and vice versa. We truly enjoy, delight, enhance, support, motivate, love, and uplift each other. When Jackie came into my life I felt so much more alive than I had ever felt. She opened my eyes to possibility. That’s very powerful. She reminded me that I was amazing. You know when you see a snow globe? There’s glitter at the bottom of the globe. It isn’t until someone comes and shakes it up that it truly comes alive. Jackie came and shook my glitter. I wanted to immerse and delight in the joys, passion, and fun that this wonderful life has to offer and share it all with her. I rejoiced in being alive and awake with the knowledge, courage, and strength to create and mold our lives however way we wanted. She came into my life and polished up the dull, tarnished parts of me that I had either ignored or forgotten that I had. She polished them up until I was so shiny, beautiful and glowing again. This is not to say that I didn’t have it going on before her nor that I wouldn’t have had it going on if I hadn’t met her. This is to say that I felt safe enough to allow our love to transform her and me into US. The journey of my life is even brighter, easier, more enjoyable with her in it and I look forward to even more evolution in the future.

What have you experienced together that has made you solid? Have you endured any hardship that you’re comfortable sharing that has cemented your bond?

I wouldn’t say there was any one hardship but many little ones throughout our lives. We have cemented our bond by how we navigate through all these little challenges. We are raising kids together (no small feat) and we are constantly involved and invested in all aspects of their growth. We navigate the challenges in our careers. We are both very, very spiritual and actively encourage and involve ourselves with each other’s spiritual evolution. We are also constantly working on improving our communication skills with each other. We are both very independent women who believe in having our own lives as well. We don’t believe in “losing” yourself in relationship. I have my own interests, friends, hobbies, alone time and she has hers. We choose to grow and evolve with each other and separately.

Who are each of you?  And who are you together?

I am a comedian, actor, singer, songwriter, mother, writer and great girlfriend. I am the organizer of the family and am very detail-oriented. I am the road trip planner, a night owl, the one you call in an emergency. I am courageous, playful, kind, caring and honest to a fault. I am loyal, reliable and will protect you with my life. I can’t stand injustice. It infuriates me. My philosophy is live in truth. You get what you put out.

She is a renaissance woman. She is a designer, stylist, writer, Reiki healer, Zumba instructor, entrepreneur, mother, daughter and the most amazing partner in the world. She is a go-getter, a motivator, an early bird, a mover and a shaker. She is loyal, positive, motivating, loving, sexy, supportive, strong and courageous. She rises with the sun and starts her day with a burst of energy! Her philosophy is whatever you want you can have. Whatever you need is within you. Love yourself first.

We are leaders and role models. We are what love looks like.

You can learn more about Sandra’s comedy on her website, WeLoveSandra.com

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Meet Barbara and Jake, currently living in Florida. Jake was a performer with Butchlesque, a performance troupe driven by music-and-fashion that explores female masculinity as interpreted by butch and masculine-of-center women. Barbara, the writer behind FemmeFairyGodmother, was instantly smitten.

Jake, left, and Barbara.

Jake and I met through Twitter. My friend Kim is the producer for a show called Butchlesque. In May, I was looking at the contestants for the show as she put up the pictures. I saw Jake’s picture and tweeted Kim: “Holy hot butch, Kim! Who is THAT?” She told me that Jake was single and on twitter, so I followed her. We started to chat a little, then she DMed me. We then started talking on the phone, every night, for hours. We lived 1300 miles apart so we had to talk on the phone to get to know one another.

In July, Jake had a business trip to Chicago and I joined her for the week. We had an amazing time! We continued talking and started video chatting. I flew to Florida twice to visit, met her friends and experienced bits of her life.

I got a new job in August, so I expected to stay in Michigan for at least three years. As luck would have it, things went to hell in a handbasket at my job and I decided to leave after 8 weeks. Jake and I talked about it and decided that we didn’t really want to wait for three years… so I packed up and moved to Sarasota, FL at the end of October.

I was putting a lot of faith in Jake and it could have been disastrous. It hasn’t been. The thing that let me know this was the right choice and the right person was that I didn’t have one single misgiving, not one red flag. It wasn’t a case of me ignoring the red flags, either. They just weren’t there. I’ve had relationships where I wasn’t able to be authentically me, for whatever reason. In this one, I decided I was just going to be exactly who I am, good, bad, ugly and she’d either fall in love or she wouldn’t. She did! She says it’s the same for her. I feel passion, excitement and love and at the same time calm, loving, and connected. As soon as we met in person, we knew.

I think that those weeks of talking on the phone for hours was the key for being sure of this relationship. We got to know each other in a way that we might not have if we were in person because, let’s face it, sex frequently gets in the way.

We’re spending this new part of our relationship building a strong foundation. We have very similar values and needs and we wanted the same thing from a relationship. We both needed romance to be accompanied by a friendship that is deeper than that. That’s exactly what we got.

I’m a loud-mouth femme and the child of southerners (which explains a lot about me, I’m told). Jake is an old-school Southern butch, IT professional, mother of 2 and a poet.

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Looks hot to us… (Photo via GirlsWithBeanies/Tumblr)

BY MOLLY WILLIAMS
Curve

Spice things up this Valentine’s Day with sexy gifts to tantalize all your senses. We have 15 gift ideas sure to shake off that winter chill and put the heat back in your hearts. From aphrodisiac chocolates to genuinely flattering lingerie, here are fifteen modern takes on the old classics.

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